Solitude brought out the worst in me. It gave me time to brood over the nature of things. I wondered how some people could be such a necessary part of one's life one day, and simply vanish the next. Isn't it supposed to last? We ran into each other at graduation. We had lunch about a year after that. It was nice to see them, but it wasn't like the old days. [...] But I'm not unhappy; I don't think any of us are. We got what we needed out of it. It's kind of like going on a vacation - you plan everything out but one day you make a wrong turn or take a detour, and you end up in some crazy place you can never find on the map, doing something you never thought you'd do. Maybe you feel a little lost while it's happening. But, later, you realize it was the best part of the whole trip.
This quote is taken from the movie Threesome. It's one of my favourite movie quotes. And I think it's so true in my life. And basically it's a topic I'm musing about quite often. And now, since I'm reflecting on my life again for this blog, this all comes to mind again. Then, today, I've stumbled across a blog from Duane. It seems like I'm not the only one who's pondering about friendship. Why is it, that one day you think you can't live without that group of friends, and suddenly you don't meet them anymore? There was no fight, no argument ... it just drifts apart.
And on the other hand, here's the reversed situation. I have 3 friends, we were a great group. But we don't get along anymore. We're still meeting, but it's strange. Is our friendship dead but we don't know yet? What should I do? Wait if it gets better again? Wait for how long?
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Hi Dennis,<br><br>that's really a point which I ca...
Hi Dennis,
that's really a point which I can't explain either.
I experienced that with the best friend of my childhood. He started school one year earlier which was no problem but as he proceeded to the Realschule and me - one year later - to the Gymnasium that was it. It was from one day to the other that we didn't meet any more. We just talked some sentences when we saw each other but no more. That's weird in my eyes!
Hi Henrik, yes, it really is weird. And it's stran...
Hi Henrik, yes, it really is weird. And it's strange it happens to so many people. Maybe it's just a fact of life we have to accept. Nevertheless, it's a sad fact.
You know, I think the weirdest part of a group dri...
You know, I think the weirdest part of a group drifting apart is how quickly it seems to happen; and without a word most times. At least that is how it happened with mine.
I suggest, if you friend group is kind of dead, remain friends with them, but put yourself out there and try to make new friends; I have been doing that recently, and it has been great. I have done a lot more things that I would have probably not done in the past (stuff that I probably would have thought about going to or whatever, but talked myself out of due to laziness or whatever). I am glad that I am being more productive in that arena, and hey, if it works for me, it's gotta work for you!!!
You're right Dennis, it is indeed a sad fact!
You're right Dennis, it is indeed a sad fact!